Grandma shares heartbreak after boy takes his own life days after 12th birthday

A boy took his own life just days after his 12th birthday after baking an Oreo cheesecake and telling his mum how much he loved her.

The family of Ethan Bourne have been left with “so many questions” after the seemingly happy, Arsenal football club-mad boy was found dead in his bedroom.

Ethan had turned 12 on January 3 and, on January 7 had been cooking with his mum before being told it was time to turn off his Playstation and head to bed at 9.30pm.

The next morning, at around 7.20am on Friday, January 8, his mum found he had taken his own life.

Ethan’s grandmother Samantha Legonidet, 47, told MyLondon : “He absolutely adored Arsenal, he loved cars, Ferraris. He loved fishing, and animals, was really good with his younger siblings. He Loved the PlayStation like all boys that age.

“I guess really he was a typical 12-year-old. A typical boy, didn’t really speak about his feelings, which is what we’re finding difficult now. We’ve got so many questions as to why this happened.”

Ethan had been living a seemingly happy life mum and siblings in Waltham Forest, east London.

He was the second eldest of six children, but the eldest within his household.

The family had recently moved from Redbridge to Waltham Forest, but Ethan would stay with his Grandma every weekend.

His start at secondary school in September had been heavily impacted by the Covid-19 pandemic.

The lad’s gran said he recently gone through a bad-tempered phase where he would stay in his bedroom, but seemed to have “snapped out of it” in the last couple of weeks.

Samantha added: “The day before [his death] he had been cooking with his mum. [He] baked an Oreo cheesecake, which his mum still won’t let go of.

“He had a really nice evening with his mum. He’d gone to bed at 9.30pm, when his mum had told him it was time to turn the PlayStation off. Ethan said, ‘Love you mum, goodnight’.”

She added: “He was our little angel. He’s given us 12 years of his life.”

Ethan’s mum had suffered a lot of trauma and was in “a very bad place” until Ethan was born.

But he “changed her life and in all aspects saved her” a family member said on a GoFundMe page set up in his memory.

Ethan’s mum recently said: “Ethan saved my life, so why couldn’t I save his?

“It’s just awful.”

Ethan’s friends at his school have been told of the young boy’s tragic death, although the school did not tell them how he actually died.

The school have said it was a “sudden loss of life”, Ethan’s grandma said.

“That’s all very good and well,” she added, “but in the current climate time, this is a pandemic, no doubt a lot of people will think that Ethan died of Covid.

“But we want to put out there that this child at just 12-years-old has taken his own life.

“Nobody talks about it, and if there’s one more young person out there that can maybe see this and actually talk up about anything that they’re heard or seen about anybody else.

“Because Ethan had sent a little message to somebody that was quite depressing, a week before he’d passed, and nobody had thought anything of it.

“So for the future we want it to be out there, for the kids to see this as well.

“We never saw no signs and this little boy – his mind must have been in so much turmoil and nobody could see it.

“In the long term I want there to be more awareness out there.”

Ethan’s mother would like a private burial and plot for her son.

“It’s the final thing we can give to him, because we won’t see 13 or 16 or any other significant times,” said his gran.